Fear and divorce

Hi, I’m Lori Barkus, a family law attorney. My Colorado and Florida-based law firm helps women have a successful divorce by finding a fair resolution in the most efficient way possible. And I’d like to talk to you about how we do that. The first step is to clear out any obstacles that will make the process not work. And the first of those obstacles is fear.

Most women facing divorce are often afraid of their husbands, of their reaction to the divorce, and how everybody else will feel. Because many women have been taught to appease and try to work everything out. And I do hear this a lot. And while I’m all for collaborating, it takes two to do that. And collaboration shouldn’t be used as a way to bully somebody into an agreement that’s not fair, which, sadly, I’ve seen.

And I’ve seen women go for that because they’re afraid. Because they’re afraid of hurting their spouses or they’re also afraid of their spouses and the anger that will be brought out if they try to speak for themselves or try to ask for something fair. So I have seen women sacrifice their financial future because of that fear.

I have seen women trust their spouses when they know they shouldn’t and end up in situations where they don’t have a fair solution because they gave into something unfair. If this is you, if this is a situation you’re in, I want you to know you’re not alone. I also want you to know that you’re not weak or helpless, or you’re not any of the things that might have been said to you. I want you to know that you can do this.

You can have a successful divorce. You can find a fair solution to it, and you can have somebody stand up for you so that you can get there. The key is to have the right person to partner with, and my firm and I are here to support you on that. If you have any questions, please visit us at barkuslaw.com.

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